Monday, March 19, 2012

I think I'll cheat

Brothers, I have another post in the works, but sometimes a bear sticks its nose in your tent and you have to deal with the beast. 

When you went to work today, did you think to yourself, "I think I'll start an affair today?" The subtitle to that thought could be, "I believe I will put a truckload of TNT up against my marriage and my family and blow them to smithereens." For the man of God, for the man who loves his Christ and seeks to honor him with all he says and does, such thoughts surpass the ludicrous, don't they? How is it then that affairs happen, that such a weed takes root in our heart?

My wife linked an article today from World Magazine's online blog.  You can find it here if you wish, but I have included it in its entirety below.  Please, take the two minutes to read and to consider your own marriage.  Brothers, if we are not purposeful with our lives, if we do not consider all that we say and do, we have begun to load up the truck.

by Andreé Seu
A friend of mine told me that now she understands how adultery begins.
She went to a woman’s house to drop off a package as a favor to someone, but the woman was not home. The husband was, and they exchanged pleasantries for a few moments. My friend noticed the carpentry project the man was working on and commented on his artistry. She asked him a few questions about it, and it didn’t take much to encourage him to spill forth for an hour and a half about every aspect of the work. It was fun.
At some point in the conversation, the man made the comment that his wife doesn’t let him go on and on like that about his hobbies. That’s when my friend felt a curious check in her spirit. As she drove home, she thought with a shudder how she had enjoyed the flattery of being told she is a superior listener.
That was a narrow escape. We are warned of these sand traps:
Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. Resist him, firm in your faith …” (1 Peter 5:8-9).
This is the substance of life, which you may choose to take seriously or not. The devil is real and is busy. Like one pastor said, “You should see the top of Satan’s desk: It’s covered with overflowing ashtrays, crumpled papers, and half-drunk cups of coffee.” Satan comes in like an angel of light and departs with a fiendish cackle over carcasses strewn in the wilderness (1 Corinthians 10:5).
I personally know of an affair that started when a married woman I know told a married man I know that she had had a dream about him. That was one foot on the banana peel. It could have been nipped in the bud at that point but was not. Each small subsequent decision sealed their fate, and great was the destruction in the final scene.
Wives, love your husbands well, being their best friends. Husbands, love your wives well. A good marriage is a bulwark against the footholds of the Adversary.
She said it, men.  Love your wives.  Don't go near the truck. 

1 comment:

  1. I agree, it happens in very small steps and before you know it you're on a downward spiral that won't stop. Just like the man who spent hours talking about his craftsmanship, many husbands are searching for someone who will be respectful of them, their work and their hobbies. Likewise, many wives are starved for verbal affirmation. If we aren't vigilant about our marriages we cause our spouses to be vulnerable to this kind of temptation. Our wives should be getting what they need at home, and not ever feel that "curious check" in their spirits. Excellent post, brother!

    T B
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